Self-Sabotaging Thoughts That Hinder Happiness
Most of us live through experiences when we can get in the way of our own happiness because we focus on thoughts that hinder happiness… on what’s wrong, what’s missing, or the negativity of a situation. If any of the following are running on a loop in your head, take note and make some changes.
- I Don’t Like People – Many people, especially introverts, tend to focus their decisions on how many people will be around. They tend to make decisions that aren’t necessarily in their best interest because they’re not comfortable with themselves in a group setting. Turn that thought around to participating in events but focusing on how you can give yourself care during anxious moments around people. It’s okay to be who you are.
- I Am Too ____ — Anytime you start a thought with, I am “too” anything, you get yourself into trouble. For example, if you find yourself saying you’re too fat, too dumb, too old, too something — to accomplish a goal, you need to turn that around to setting up real doable steps that will get you to your goals. All you’re doing with that “I am too…” self talk is giving yourself permission to give up…
- I’ll Do That When I ______ — You’ve probably said it before to yourself. “I’ll do that when I go back to school.” “I’ll do that when I clean the house.” “I’ll do that when I lose weight.” You know the drill. Unless you really need to do the thing in the blank, don’t allow it to get in your way. If you do need to do it, just make a step-by-step plan to get it done.
- I Can’t Do _____ — You may have heard your child, or yourself, or someone else say “I can’t do math.” Or “I can’t cook.” The truth is, no one can do any of that without learning how to do it. No one just appears in life knowing how to cook, read, write or do math. We can learn pretty much whatever we set our minds to learn given the time and effort to do it.
- Saying I Should ____ — Have you ever heard that it’s important not to “should” all over everyone? Not only is it a bad idea to create “shoulds” for others, it’s a terrible idea to create them for yourself.
- In the Past ___ — Dwelling on the past and what someone did to you in the past or what things were like in the past is not going to help you overcome self-sabotage. While it’s okay to use the past as a learning tool, it’s not okay to use it as an excuse not to move forward. Remember you are the one in charge of your life.
- In the Future ____ — Just like you don’t want to focus on the past, you also don’t want to be overly focused on the future. Be mindful not to do that to the exclusion of being present and living in your life today.
- If I Were More Like They Are – Never compare yourself to someone else in a negative way. It’s okay to look at what someone has accomplished, admire them for it and learn how to do it too. Benjamin Franklin said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” Words to live by…
Whenever you find you’re focused on a negative aspect of any situation, try to turn your mind around to focus on and find the positives rather than dwelling on thoughts that hinder happiness. There are times in life when we experience a sad or a negative time. That’s normal; that’s life. It’s about how you handle yourself and your thoughts the rest of the time that truly leads to more happiness.
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Cheryl A Major
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