Use Failure to Succeed
Do you try to avoid failure? Most of us do. It makes sense too, because failing is not fun. It would be great if we could leap right into success. However, that’s most often not a realistic expectation. You can use tools to help you believe in yourself, and find success. One of the best tools to help you, oddly enough, can be failure. In fact, you can use failure to succeed.
When you fail, you can use the experience to figure out what went wrong. You can evaluate the steps you took and try to find the point of failure; where exactly did it all go wrong? Then you can course correct and choose different steps based on your evaluation.
You need to be honest in your assessment of why the failure happened. Refusing to accept responsibility and blaming others only masks the true reasons, keeps you from figuring out what to do next and can keep your success in the distance. It’s often easier to blame others rather than to admit your mistakes. Be aware you aren’t doing yourself any favors when you do this.
Recognizing your failure is important, but by the same token, don’t be overly self-critical. If you get to the point where you are putting yourself down because you failed, it won’t help you move forward. Acknowledge that you failed, don’t beat yourself up and strategize to implement a new plan.
You can be inspired from learning from the failures of others. People write about their trials and tribulations in books or record videos about their experiences. Their experiences can help by giving you tips on how to avoid the mistakes they made. Understanding this may even help you succeed more quickly than if you were to make the same mistakes. Using other peoples’ experiences to your advantage is smart! If you don’t do this already, now is a good time to begin.
Drawing from the experiences of others also reinforces that you aren’t alone. If you read about how a successful person overcame obstacles, you may feel better about making mistakes. In other words, if they ultimately succeeded, so can you. That’s a powerful benefit of using failure to your advantage.
Don’t forget the story about Thomas Edison. He failed 1,000 times trying to invent the light bulb before he succeeded. When a reporter asked him, “How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?” Edison replied, “I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.”
Is there ever a time when you should try to avoid failure? If you’re repeating the same mistakes over and over, it’s time to take a hard look at what you are doing. If you can’t break that cycle, you may want to find a coach or a mentor who can help you. Sometimes, that extra push from someone with a different perspective of the situation can be all that is needed to get you to move on and be successful.