Are You Afraid of Failure?
People can be so afraid of failure that they do everything imaginable to avoid it! Some people avoid taking any chances at all because if they try something and it doesn’t work for them, they are terrified they will be looked upon as a failure. To make matters worse, we often see successful people profiled in the media and think they must either be geniuses or were naturals at what they did. Yet, if you look closely at the lives of these people, you are likely to discover a much different picture. What we don’t see is all the hundreds of times these people have failed before they were successful.
Failure is a great tool to move you toward success if you learn to use it to your advantage. You can use it to figure out what not to do the next time around. If something you tried didn’t work, that may not be a reason to give up entirely on your project. It should be used as a road map to reevaluate what went wrong, evaluate and adjust…then to try again.
It’s not unusual to realize you may need some help to determine why what you tried wasn’t successful. If this is the case, you may want to find a mentor who can evaluate what you’re doing and help you get back on track. A mentor worth listening to may cost you some money, but good mentors are worth it if they can guide you and help you succeed.
If you decide to continue to go it alone, read everything you can about influential people, about what they did and how they handled their own failures. There are many biographies of famous people that shed light on their struggles and what it took for them to get to the success column.
There is a side benefit to failure and that is demonstrating to others your tenacity. By continuing to evaluate what went wrong and never letting it stop you, it’s difficult to imagine you won’t ultimately succeed. Expect there will be setbacks and challenges along the way, but by staying focused on what you are trying to accomplish and continuing to implement what works and discarding what doesn’t, you will be well on your way to success.
Read, study, learn! One common trait you will find among people who have used being afraid of failure as a learning tool is that they never stop learning. They are constantly striving to improve and to learn. They read and follow other successful people and try to emulate what those people have done.
And speaking of reading, I want to share with you one of my favorite books ever. It’s titled “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway” by Dr. Susan Jeffers. I am not making it up when I tell you, more than several times I have sat in my car reading that book, terrified to go on to my next challenge…to step way outside my comfort zone. It has never failed to give me courage and confidence, and I want you to have that tool at your side as well.
Afraid of failure?? Never stop learning, and never give up!
Be Your Best You!
Cheryl A Major, CNWC
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