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Finding Happiness
I learned to look for sadness, and I learned it from my father. I believe he didn’t intend to have it happen, but he endured many tragedies and sorrows during his lifetime; many of them when he was very young. I’m working on finding happiness these days. It was suggested to me years ago that maybe he was just trying to share his sadness. I can understand that, but I learned my lessons a little too well on this one. As with many of us, awareness comes over time, and finding the courage to deal with your personal or mental reality also comes to you over time. My journey online…
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Boost Your Self-Confidence
Are you struggling with your confidence? You’re not alone. Many of us strive to have more self-confidence. The truth is it can be difficult to come by at times. You often hold yourself to unreasonably high standards, and this can have a negative impact on your self-esteem. It’s important to boost your self-confidence! If you can learn how to leverage and strengthen your self-confidence, it’s possible you can generate some excellent outcomes. For instance, self-confidence leads to: Healthier relationships. Confidence doesn’t just influence how you feel about yourself, but it also helps you to understand and appreciate others better too. Better performance. Rather than constantly worrying you’re not good enough,…
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When You Change Your Thoughts, You Change Your Life
When you change your thoughts, you change your life. Changing my thoughts is changing my life. I say “is changing” as I am definitely a work in progress. Aren’t we all? After eating widely (read that as “badly” for me personally) the end of last year, I found myself dealing with feeling very down and depressed again. I was blown away and extremely disappointed as I thought I had slain that dragon! Because I have learned I have to take responsibility for my mental health, I am back on track with my mindful healthy eating, and I have dramatically increased my focus on a positive mindset. Why do I share…
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Success Isn’t Luck
Success Isn’t Luck; It’s You! Do you have feelings or worries your co-workers or friends will think you’re a fraud? Do you often feel as though you don’t belong? Success isn’t luck, and these are feelings of “impostor syndrome”. A surprising number of successful people experience this in their lives. Impostor syndrome can cause you to feel you only accomplished your goals because of luck. Perhaps you think you aren’t as good as others think you are, and so you also worry you’ll be found out. Research shows us both men and women battle impostor syndrome and are unable to acknowledge, own and enjoy their success. What Is Impostor…
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4 Ways Introverts Can Enjoy More Social Confidence
Social confidence is important for building relationships. This is true of the introvert, the extrovert and the average person who is somewhere between those two ends of the personality spectrum. It’s possible to enjoy a much more successful career when you have powerful social skills. Your personal relationships benefit greatly. The person who’s confident when interacting with others has a high level of self-esteem. They enjoy a powerful self-belief that they are capable when they find themselves in social situations. This is not to say introverts don’t live wonderful, rewarding lives. They simply have a view of their best life that’s different from an extroverted person. By the way, it’s…
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Seeing Happiness…Can You Learn To See It?
I’ve been wondering the past few days… If you’re good at being sad, can you get good at being happy? Can you get good at seeing happiness? Looking back at my childhood, I’m aware I learned from my father to look for sadness. He had a very tragic early life with many huge losses no child or young adult should have to bear. I don’t believe he meant to teach me to look for and find sadness, but it happened. I learned my lesson well, and I got very good at finding sadness. Couple that with my predisposition for depression, and it was the perfect storm. I’ve lost all five…
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Healthy Ways to Handle Anger
Healthy Ways to Handle Anger How do you feel about anger? Did you know all anger is not the same? Did you also know there are both unhealthy and healthy ways to handle anger? Sometimes it’s good to get angry about something; it’s just the right thing to do in response to an event. Positive change can come from being angry at injustice or inequality for example. Righteous or justified anger from being mistreated can be a great motivator for change. The challenge and the inner conflicts come if you’ve had bad experiences with handling anger. For instance, if you had less than healthy role models in your childhood, you…
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Limiting Beliefs and Self Confidence
It’s just a fact that holding onto limiting beliefs negatively impacts your self-confidence and your self-esteem. It’s helpful to look at the following list of limiting beliefs and then work toward replacing them with empowering ones. Treat yourself kindly and learn to reframe the things you say to yourself. How you speak to yourself has a huge effect, either negative or positive, on your future! Always be mindful of limiting beliefs and self-confidence. Here’s one example: “I’ll never be able to learn this because I’m not smart enough” is better as “It may take some extra time, but I’ll find a way to learn the things I need to learn…
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Digital Detox
Over the past few years, the term ‘digital detox’ has become increasingly popular as people discover the benefits of turning off their electronic devices and just living life with a bit of quiet for a day or two. Doing a digital detox once a week is a fantastic way to restore your mental health and calm your soul. It’s true we live in a digital age, and millions of people are glued to their mobile phones, tablets, laptops, etc. The other day I was noticing in the grocery store how many people were talking on their cell phones while pushing their carts through the aisles. I also noticed how they…
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Kick Your Anxiety to the Curb!
What Exactly is Anxiety? Let’s just admit it; most of us experience anxiety from time to time. It’s expressed through tension, uncertainty, and sometimes through fear. When it hits us, these worries can affect our sleep, our appetite and our ability to concentrate. Let’s talk a bit about it and about how to lose your anxiety. The reality is that anxiety and fear are important for your survival because they act to protect your body against stress or danger. They trigger the release of hormones like adrenalin. As a result of that adrenalin release, you breathe more quickly which increases your energy. There are other physical changes which are produced…
